It is true that with higher positions within the hierarchy of a company, interpersonal skills become more important. Not only in questions of promotion, but also as an important prerequisite for success in the management task itself. It is understandable that this may seem unfair to you, especially since your previous profile is different. I can only encourage you to devote yourselve to developing interpersonal skills through coaching if you care about (and why should you not) being promoted in the hierarchy. Personally, I find coaching a smart step that will certainly be appreciated positively by your employer. I would not try to keep the topic a secret, on the contrary I would try to finance the coaching by the employer. But the final decision is up to you. Of course, you can also pay the costs out of your own pocket and then have the guarantee that absolutely no one learns of the coaching. A refinancing through health insurance is not possible. You are not effected in your health.
The effect of psychological treatment that you describe can occur when a therapist unilaterally works out the weaknesses of a client. Bad therapists can try this with the mistaken hope that recognizing weaknesses would lay the foundation for overcoming them. The reality is rather different. If you think too much about your own deficits and weaknesses, that draws you down even more. Moreover, the theoretical knowledge of one's own weaknesses is often less useful than many think. I therefore follow a fundamentally different approach. First of all, I focus on what is currently still going on or is already doing well in order to further expand the fields of competence that were already in existence together with the client. I have had very positive experiences with this, because this usually helps clients to more creative power, optimism and opportunities for action. Moreover, with this approach, a weakening of the client is excluded. I can guarantee that we will shape your coaching so that you will experience it in a positive and strengthened way. Everything else would be nonsensical, of course.
Popularly, there is a saying that it takes about as long to pull a cart "out of the dirt", as it had previously taken to drive the cart "in the dirt". This expectation, of course, frustrates especially those who have long struggled on the same topics. But because the suffering has been going on for a long time and the problems seem varied, their solution does not necessarily have to be particularly lengthy. Of course, each case seems insoluble. Otherwise you would have solved the problems yourself. With expert help from outside, however, quite different possibilities often arise. Yes, I think we can handle your difficult case, even if I do not know it yet in detail.
First of all, they should rule out that your fatigue is the result of a serious physical illness. Therefore a timely, extensive, conventional medical examination on the cutting edge of medical art is the right thing to do. If this despite many investigations does not lead to any clear findings and / or you want to look into the psychological factors that may contribute to your being this exhausted all the time, then you can and should take complementary coaching. This seems to be the case in your example. The decisive word, however, is "complementary". Coaching cannot be a substitute for medical treatment. After these clarifications, I can tell you that the situation you are describing very often goes back to mental processes that you are probably unaware of and that you almost certainly do not have proper access to and therefore little leverage. I have experience in helping you to track down the holistic factors that cause your fatigue in the core and to help you find a better way to handle this. We should make an appointment soon. In cases like yours, it is important that you do not continue like before.
When it comes to coaching, many people still think of a long-standing psychotherapy in which the client is allegedly lying on a couch and talking in free association about his mental health problems, while a therapist sitting in a chair notes down extensive notes in a block. Whether this cliché has ever met the psychotherapeutic practice, I dare to doubt. At any rate, coaching is something completely different. A coaching tries less to fathom the shoals of the human soul, but to help the client in his topics with himself and the environment in a very concrete and pragmatic way. With just a few sessions, noticeable improvements can usually be achieved. However, as with any service, there cannot be a 100% success guarantee (as you know, there is no such thing with any doctor or lawyer). In order to keep your risk as low as possible, the first half hour of the order clarification is free of charge with me. If you do not feel good we can stop right there and you have not lost any money. After the order clarification, I calculate per hour. Again, you can stop anytime you like if you think we don’t make sufficient improvement. Fortunately, that's the exception in most cases. In that sense, your risk of being disappointed is low in my view. Since you have put a performance-related fee into play, I would like to mention the case in which your benefits significantly exceed the amount of my fee. In this case, you are, of course, free to round up my fee according to your ideas.
We all have had the experience that long-term habits (and I here include "eat" and "do not do sports") certainly have to have a certain tenacity, which cannot be successfully addressed with good will, intent or discipline. A change in these patterns of behavior can not only be forced into the head by a firm decision, because it usually draws the short straw. This topic has to be approached completely differently. I have a lot of experience in this field and can effectively assist you on your way to finding a path out of these deep-seated patterns of behavior and taking other sustainable directions.
Hardly any high school graduate ever knew exactly what he wanted to become in the future. With the rapid changes of today, the choice of profession has certainly not become easier. The core of the coaching should be that we find topics that you enjoy, that you can do well, and in which you can ultimately achieve a "decent" salary. I'm sure you'll have more clarity on how to get there in just a few sessions. Even though your parents will probably pay the coaching, students will receive a 25% discount on my usual fee rate.
Successful people in particular can benefit from my work to a great extent. Having mastered many things excellently, it is usually easier for you than for others to include new things and "new tricks" in your repertoire of behaviors. Even if, as in your case, there is a question clearly outlined, we will certainly quickly come to a result that is useful for you. But in general, coaching does not have to be a long process. After all, I do not want to explore the depths of your soul in detail, but to help you quickly and as pragmatically as possible. Normally, we achieve noticeable progress from the very first session. Many topics can be moved surprisingly fast and a longer coaching results only if the client wishes for a longer companionship on his way and from the further meetings also a concrete added value for the results.
First of all, that's good news. Your boss does not want to get rid of you, but instead wants to invest time and money in you. He sees only a certain "coaching requirement". A theme in which he would like to see an improvement in you. That too is nothing bad ("nobody is perfect"). The process is such that we get to know each other. This first conversation is free for you. Mutual sympathy assumed we would then close a coaching agreement with your company, which governs all administrative matters. The actual coaching then begins with an order clarification with your boss. Your boss will then describe to me (or even better: both of us) the one or more topics in which he wants an improvement. We then work on these topics very systematically and intensively in the following weeks. I work exclusively for you. That means you have all my attention and loyalty. Everything we discuss remains strictly confidential and among us. Unless you expressly wish otherwise and release me from confidentiality.